Another egg donation…done and dusted!

02d7c2ad9c5ad9a5592eb973e194e2ed“Thank you!  It was a great experience and I can’t wait to hear the results!  I am holding everything that I can… crossed for my recipients!

I will definitely do it again! And, I made a full recovery with no problems whatsoever!! 🙂

If being an Egg Donor isn’t right for you, why not consider being a Gestational Surrogate rather?

BwGrf6eIEAAcVFpSurrogacy is the incredibly selfless act of carrying a baby for someone who is medically unable to do so themselves. With Gestational surrogacy (most commonly practiced nowadays), the surrogate has no genetic ties and is not related in any way to the embryo she is carrying. Embryos may come from the intended mother and father or from an egg donor.

There are many medical reasons why people may need a surrogate. A surrogate is used most often when the intended mother is capable of producing healthy eggs but can’t get pregnant herself.  This is often because the intended mother has no uterus e.g. the woman has had a hysterectomy or has an abnormal uterus which prevents her from carrying a baby of her own.

There are also many gay couples who long to be parents and have a family of their own. For obvious reasons, they are unable to become pregnant and therefore rely on the generosity of a surrogate mother to do it for them.

What makes a surrogate pregnancy so extraordinarily special is that a surrogate mother carries the baby for another person who, without them would not be able to fulfill their dream of having a baby.  If it were not for women who are willing to perform this ultimate act of human kindness, there would be so many men and women out there who would be forced to face a future of broken hearts and empty arms.

Surrogacy is a complex and expensive option (for the commissioning couple), and is really only suitable for women without a uterus, women whose uterus is damaged or for gay male couples.

Once the High Court has approved the medical certificate from your doctor saying that you are medically unable to carry a baby, a legal contract is made between the intended parents , their chosen Surrogate Agency (www.surrogacy.co.za) and the surrogate mother. It may also include the participation of an egg donor (www.nurture.co.za) whose eggs will be retrieved and fertilized with the partner’s sperm and then implanted into the surrogate mother’s uterus.  This legal agreement will have to be confirmed and authorised by the high court before any treatment can commence.

InVitro Fertilization (IVF) is then used to form the embryo which is implanted into the surrogate mother’s uterus for the purpose of growing the miracle baby and hopefully carrying a healthy pregnancy to full term.

What’s in it for the Surrogate Mother ?

  1. Without an ounce of doubt, front row, VIP seats in heaven!  No amount can ever equate to what a gift the surrogate mother has given.
  2. In terms of South Africa’s “New Children’s Act”, surrogacy can only be done for altruistic reasons and not for commercial gain. This means that you may claim for any expenses that are directly related to the surrogacy/pregnancy and you may claim within reason for loss of income. The commissioning parents will cover the cost of a medical aid for the duration of your pregnancy/birth, including a few months post-partum. A life insurance policy will also be provided by the commissioning couple for the duration of the surrogacy.  All other expenses related to the Surrogacy will be covered by the Commissioning Parents. They will also cover all the legal fees, as well as any counselling that the Surrogate mother may require.
  3. She will get full medical attention and any medical care needed to make sure that the implanted embryo reaches full term.
  4. A surrogate mother understands that she has no right to the child once born as she has agreed in a written contract that her primary role is merely to carry the baby to full term.

Gestational Surrogacies are widely popular today however as you can appreciate there are only a handful of women who are medically, emotionally and psychologically able to carry a baby for someone else.  The reality is that there is a shortage of suitable surrogates in South Africa.  This means that there is a waiting list of people who need a surrogate and finding the right surrogate mother is way more complicated than many anticipate.

Qualifications for a Surrogate Mother:

A surrogate mother must meet the below criteria before she may proceed and is matched with possible intended parents:

  • You must be in good physical, emotional and mental health
  • You must be a South African citizen
  • You must be between 21 and 42 years old. The older a woman gets, the higher her chances are of a high risk pregnancy.
  • Her BMI must be below 35
  • You must have had at least one pregnancy, a viable birth and have a living child of her own. This will give her important experience and knowledge of the difficulties that come with pregnancy and .
  • You may not have had more than 2 caesarean sections
  • You must be willing to take a psychological screening. A thorough psychological test will determine if the candidate is appropriate to be a surrogate mother. This will reveal any issues the surrogate mother may have regarding her motivations, expectations and behaviour towards the agreement.
  • You must be a non-smoker and live in a smoke free environment
  • You must not be taking current medications that may be deemed unsafe for pregnancy
  • Must not have had medical complications related to previous pregnancies
  • You will need a strong support system at home who will support her decision to become a surrogate mother
  • You must be willing to have a background check
  • You must be someone who the commissioning couple can count on and trust implicitly
  • You must be someone who will communicate openly, honestly, and consistently
  • You must be someone who is as committed as they are to creating their dream of a family
  • You must be someone who will follow the doctor’s orders and SA surrogacy protocol diligently

Should you require any further information or wish to apply please visit: www.surrogacy.co.za

We would love to tell you more about how you can make a huge difference as a gestational carrier.

 

"Thank you"

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We always check in with our donors post egg retrieval,  how lovely it is to get feedback like this:

“I appreciate the feedback, I wish the recipients all the best. I would also like to thank you for the gift and for making me feel special, constantly!”

How many people does it take to make a baby?

10412026_10152315775450836_6826673376475710640_nTWO……We hear you say!!!

Well, nope, nowhere close!

That would be the answer in ‘normal’ circumstances, but when a recipient is medically unable to conceive on their own and decides to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, we are talking about a whole team of people – in fact you would be surprised at just how many people are involved in the donation process, especially in the support and care of our amazing donors!

There are well over 15 people involved in each cycle, each having a critical part to play in this incredible journey, all striving for the same goal – to help a recipient reach their dream of having a baby (or two!)

It starts at the beginning with you and your decision to be an egg donor.  We know this isn’t a decision which is taken lightly – thank you for doing your research, homework and soul searching! Then there are the fabulous Nurture team who are right behind you 100% of the way, as well as the fertility clinic and all the team there who pull everything together to make the magic happen.

At the clinic your treatment is managed by a large team consisting of doctors, counsellors, IVF co-ordinators, admin staff, lab technicians (who take your blood samples), theatre nurses, embryologists (who collect, fertilise and take great care of your precious eggs) and many others who all have some vital part to play in the miraculous process of creating a life (or two!)

Not to mention the recipients, their friends and family who are in the background, waiting with high hopes for precious eggs and then with mixed feelings of anxiety and excitement for a positive pregnancy result!  The recipient’s are so close to the final stretch that lies ahead of them and to hopefully welcoming their baby into the world, all of this is because of YOU! Rest assured they are holding you up high in their thoughts and forever in their hearts!

When you go for a clinic appointment, you might be thinking that it’s just you and one or two other people involved in your treatment, this couldn’t be further from the truth! Being a donor really is an incredible experience, your immense generosity affects a number of people, some who you will not meet, but take comfort in the fact that each time you go to the clinic, a very dedicated team will all be ready to apply their unique expertise to the different stages of your journey and the Nurture team are always right here to support you from beginning to the very end and beyond!

We too will forever hold you in our hearts! x

 

"I thank you for your part in my journey"

A heart warming message from an amazing recipient who’s donor donated a second time, so that she, the recipient will have the opportunity to have a biological sibling for her first child:heart trio

“I had my 7 week appointment with the Dr today and I am so pleased to say I am pregnant with TWO beautiful babies!!

I am so grateful to Nurture and more importantly to my donor who agreed to donate again.  I have a lovely handsome son and now he will not be lonely, he will have two siblings.

I know I can’t communicate with the donor but please send my biggest thanks to her for giving me this precious gift of being a parent again. I know it’s God’s work and plan but he had a reason for me choosing this lovely woman! My son is peaceful and courteous and I am making sure he grows up to be the leader that I know he is.

I don’t have the words but THANK YOU. I am in tears writing this from both excitement and joy. 

The whole Vitalab team shared in my joy today, it was so wonderful to see.

I won’t stop. So let me stop here. 

Thank you to all of you.

Love always

xx”

15 reasons to get off the fence and become an egg donor…

  1.  905a6f5c3adfad5714024fe2e2734f56You’ll get to witness the wonders of modern medicine first hand.
  2. It will make you feel powerful in your ability to make positive social change.
  3. Many women and men desperately need eggs to make their families, and you could help them do that.
  4. The entire egg donation process only takes 2-3 months, and only 2 weeks of that is active participation
  5. You’ll learn more about your body, your menstrual cycle, and human reproduction in general
  6. Donating eggs will give you an appreciation of the beauty and power of your body
  7. Donating eggs will give you an amazing symbolic connection to your fellow human beings
  8. The experience will deepen your capacity to empathize with others’ suffering
  9. If your recipient is infertile, you can raise public awareness about infertility
  10. If your recipient is gay, you can raise public awareness about gay parenting
  11. “I’m an egg donor” makes a great conversation starter at parties.
  12.  You’ll be able to look back on the experience with pride
  13. It is your opportunity to ‘pay it forward’ with some very good karma sent out to the universe.
  14. You’ll be a member of a very small, very unique “sorority” of women who have donated eggs to others.
  15. You will have the fantastic, wonderful, awesome experience of having the country’s best egg donor team support you through the process – the Nurture team are like a best friend times a million!!

Adapted from an article written by Abbie Waters

"How blessed we have been to receive her special gift"

6bc4ad693b8ed04235678a14d4a0bb30I just wanted to let you know that I have had the big scan and everything is fine. We are thrilled to announce that we are expecting two beautiful girls, we couldn’t be happier!

It has been a very emotional time for us and we have tried not to get too excited, just in case. I finally feel like I can breathe a little now!

We are filled with hope and joy at the prospect of holding our precious darlings. Thank you so much for making our dreams come true.

Please can you let our donor know our wonderful news. I often think of her – what an amazing woman she is and how blessed we have been to receive her special gift!

xx

"With the holiday season virtually upon us, now is the time to reserve your donor for a baby-filled 2015"

07e1fbb06cd6c4354bfa41670287f8f8With only 9 Thursday’s left until Christmas, did you know that many of the clinics close for 2-3 weeks for the Holiday Season?

We are on our final push to get all cycles completed before the Holiday season! Contact us to view over 160 profiles of donors who are available to donate immediately.

And for those planning a January cycle, now is the time to reserve your donor for a baby-filled 2015!

"I would do it again in a heartbeat"

0daa4d25bf9af1db86f4c979f92e8cd1I’ve just got back home now from a wonderful stay in Cape Town. 

I just want to thank you for the amazing assistance I received from the Nurture team and the great stay at the guest house. The whole process from the time I was first told that I had been chosen as a donor until I got back home was absolutely wonderful! Everyone at the Cape Fertility Clinic was so pleasant and friendly too!

It truly was such an amazing experience and I would do it again in a heartbeat! I really pray and hope that everything works out well for the recipient.

xx

How to find a suitable egg donor ?

b41f731086d21bc0c9a1662b9c55f63fOnce people have decided to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, they need to find a suitable egg donor. Something that if done on your own, can feel very much like going on a blind date, blind-folded.

Selecting an egg donor is not too unlike online dating where you can view the profiles of an overwhelming number of potential suitors. Only, in this case, your ‘matchmaking’ service is not a dating service website, but an egg donation agency who knows that this is not just about a once off event, but instead understands that choosing the right donor is one of the most important decisions you will make for your future family. After selecting a reputable egg donor agency, donor recipients will have access to the agency’s database of egg donors from where they will be able to peruse and review a variety of egg donor profiles. Egg donors are healthy young female volunteers between the ages of 21 and 34 years old. In South Africa, an egg donor’s identity is never revealed – which is why future parents are only able to view baby and toddler photos  of their donor. This is to protect the donor’s anonymity

But in order to make sure that donors select the right person, all the egg donor profiles contain extensive and detailed information about the donor: From her physical traits, full medical history, family information, academic information, personality traits, interests, social as well as professional aspects. In fact, you will get to know virtually everything about her, except her real name. Her profile should also state her egg donation stipulations and availability.

These detailed profiles allow the recipients to make an informed choice and to ultimately select someone who closely matches their own uniqueness in attributes and physical appearance.

All efforts are undertaken by a reputable egg donor agency to optimise the process for egg donors and their recipients to make the process as efficient as possible and to increase the success rate of conception. An established egg donation agency will be able to effectively guide and support recipients about selecting the right profiled egg donor. It is important that people have access to a solid and reputable egg donor database.

When egg donation recipients find ‘the one’, that ideal candidate who is the right fit for them, they will most often experience contentment and peace when reading the egg donor profile. Sometimes it’s a ‘gut feel’ thing, othertimes it’s a ‘connection’ that takes place when you read a specific profile.  But no matter how you choose your perfect donor, it is vital that the ‘matchmaking’ agency makes the process as comforting and fulfilling as possible.