How many people does it take to make a baby?

10412026_10152315775450836_6826673376475710640_nTWO……We hear you say!!!

Well, nope, nowhere close!

That would be the answer in ‘normal’ circumstances, but when a recipient is medically unable to conceive on their own and decides to enlist the assistance of an egg donor to have a baby, we are talking about a whole team of people – in fact you would be surprised at just how many people are involved in the donation process, especially in the support and care of our amazing donors!

There are well over 15 people involved in each cycle, each having a critical part to play in this incredible journey, all striving for the same goal – to help a recipient reach their dream of having a baby (or two!)

It starts at the beginning with you and your decision to be an egg donor.  We know this isn’t a decision which is taken lightly – thank you for doing your research, homework and soul searching! Then there are the fabulous Nurture team who are right behind you 100% of the way, as well as the fertility clinic and all the team there who pull everything together to make the magic happen.

At the clinic your treatment is managed by a large team consisting of doctors, counsellors, IVF co-ordinators, admin staff, lab technicians (who take your blood samples), theatre nurses, embryologists (who collect, fertilise and take great care of your precious eggs) and many others who all have some vital part to play in the miraculous process of creating a life (or two!)

Not to mention the recipients, their friends and family who are in the background, waiting with high hopes for precious eggs and then with mixed feelings of anxiety and excitement for a positive pregnancy result!  The recipient’s are so close to the final stretch that lies ahead of them and to hopefully welcoming their baby into the world, all of this is because of YOU! Rest assured they are holding you up high in their thoughts and forever in their hearts!

When you go for a clinic appointment, you might be thinking that it’s just you and one or two other people involved in your treatment, this couldn’t be further from the truth! Being a donor really is an incredible experience, your immense generosity affects a number of people, some who you will not meet, but take comfort in the fact that each time you go to the clinic, a very dedicated team will all be ready to apply their unique expertise to the different stages of your journey and the Nurture team are always right here to support you from beginning to the very end and beyond!

We too will forever hold you in our hearts! x

 

"I thank you for your part in my journey"

A heart warming message from an amazing recipient who’s donor donated a second time, so that she, the recipient will have the opportunity to have a biological sibling for her first child:heart trio

“I had my 7 week appointment with the Dr today and I am so pleased to say I am pregnant with TWO beautiful babies!!

I am so grateful to Nurture and more importantly to my donor who agreed to donate again.  I have a lovely handsome son and now he will not be lonely, he will have two siblings.

I know I can’t communicate with the donor but please send my biggest thanks to her for giving me this precious gift of being a parent again. I know it’s God’s work and plan but he had a reason for me choosing this lovely woman! My son is peaceful and courteous and I am making sure he grows up to be the leader that I know he is.

I don’t have the words but THANK YOU. I am in tears writing this from both excitement and joy. 

The whole Vitalab team shared in my joy today, it was so wonderful to see.

I won’t stop. So let me stop here. 

Thank you to all of you.

Love always

xx”

"I would do it again in a heartbeat"

0daa4d25bf9af1db86f4c979f92e8cd1I’ve just got back home now from a wonderful stay in Cape Town. 

I just want to thank you for the amazing assistance I received from the Nurture team and the great stay at the guest house. The whole process from the time I was first told that I had been chosen as a donor until I got back home was absolutely wonderful! Everyone at the Cape Fertility Clinic was so pleasant and friendly too!

It truly was such an amazing experience and I would do it again in a heartbeat! I really pray and hope that everything works out well for the recipient.

xx

"This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish"

Tammuz ad copy“I do not have the words to explain how I am feeling right now. I just left the clinic after my egg retrieval.  I’m sooo emotional from all the happiness.

I feel super blessed to have had the opportunity to donate and think it was all so worth it. I cannot express enough how grateful I am for the couple who chose me. I can’t seem to stop crying. This is one good thing in my life that I will always cherish!

Please tell the recipient parents that I got their gift and I appreciate it more than they could ever know, I hope and pray for every success with this journey ahead of them.

Thank you to Nurture and the staff at Vitalab too, they really were amazing. I hope to do this again soon.

Good luck & God bless xx”

Nurture gals….privileged to be working from home

e07bb633c0a774c5267c6451025c2d25The fabulous Nurture gals are very fortunate to have the privilege of working from home (some may call it a blessing!). Admittedly it does pose its challenges i.e. knowing when to stop working (because we absolutely LOVE what we do!), knowing how to say no to those friends who want to go hang out at Vida, learning how to balance work, family, chores and errands without burning one’s self out. We all have amusing stories to share about managing husband and kids demands, multi- tasking, neglecting one’s appearance, juggling the demands of the office and dealing with stepping out of the comfort zone when the time comes to refrain from working in one’s pajama’s and to make an actual appearance in person.

Over the years we’ve learned to really appreciate the obvious benefits of not having to commute to and from an office and waste hours away in crazy traffic jams.  Let us not forget the savings on fuel and vehicle maintenance, on ludicrous phone bills (after all what else is a woman to do in traffic other than catch up with girlfriends?) and on uncomfortable business attire (which we all hate anyway!).

Having the ability to work from our beds on those dreary winter days, to sneak in the odd mani, to share in the day to day tribulations of child rearing and most importantly being available when our families need us, as well as having the luxury of being able to spend more time with our precious families are perks one cannot put a price to.

All of this whilst contributing to the household income and helping make a huge difference to the lives of other people which is something we’re all so passionate about, we wouldn’t change it for the world!

Your egg donation is over… now what ?

Egg Donor

We know many of our amazing egg donors can so relate! They’ve planned around it and eagerly anticipated their donation for months. The fabulous Nurture team, your friends, partners & families have all been right behind you and as excited! You’ve survived the needles, got through the many doctor’s appointments, sailed through the treatment plan, become the best of friends with the clinic staff, bonded with the amazing specialists Nurture work with, had your retrieval and handed over a few of your precious eggs.…….whooohooo… what a ride! And so, is that it, now what? What do they mean I can’t do another donation immediately, next month? Hold onto your horses gorgeous, we care about you and the well being of your clever ovaries just a little too much! Nurture will be in touch during the month following the donation with the various options available to you.

Our incredibly special Nurture donors become egg donors as they are compassionate, have huge hearts, care about their fellow human beings out there, want to bring happiness and make a positive difference in someone else’s life and are genuinely amazing people. True story. They are committed and go into the process wholeheartedly, and the process is so consuming for that short period, that when their part is over, it is sometimes hard not to feel a little pushed aside, forgotten, empty or sad 🙁

This often rings so true, especially when the recipient couple is pregnant, ecstatic beyond words and their focus now moves away from “hold your breath” and “keep everything crossed” treatments to an exciting new future of celebrating and planning for the family life they’ve longed for, without our fabulous donors none of this would be possible. Whether pregnant or not – YOU have given them hope – Thank You!

The majority of couples who have gone the egg donation route have travelled an incredibly difficult and emotionally taxing journey, having tried for years to reach their dream of having a family. Although some couples are happy to maintain contact with Nurture and their donor (via Nurture) and many do so amongst the excitement in the early stages of pregnancy and parenthood, many often want to put all their infertility pain behind them, to enjoy the pregnancy, their new long awaited family and to feel like a normal family……finally! In order to do so many find it necessary to disconnect from everything concerned with their pre-pregnancy journey, and thus typically keep in touch less often. Don’t take it personally – you have done your bit & it’s time to move forward.

Nurture egg donors are not forgotten, no ways, never ever, not in a million years! Not by Nurture, neither by the recipient parents, we can absolutely assure you of this. Our recipient testimonials are proof of that and many cannot put the immense gratitude they feel into words. You will always be remembered for having done something so incredibly special and owe it to yourself to be super proud of your precious and treasured gift – the feelings of pride and achievement that go with it are fully earned and truly deserved – they can never be taken away and are with you for life.

Remember – YOU make US possible 🙂

Our special recipient is expecting twins….

eggs2 copy“Please can you let “D” know that everything is just awesome. I am so overwhelmed to have such special gifts and indebted to you all for making our miracles happen. Words fail me.

Much love”

"I've had a wonderful experience with your team"

“I have a friend who is very interested in doing an egg donation after I told her all about it and I have referred her to Nurture because I’ve had such a wonderful experience with your team.

Thank you so much for everything!”